One of the most intriguing facts about life is this:
The majority of people who are putting limits on you are not doing this because they wish for your failure…
They do this because they are very sure of your success.
The tiny fears lodged in the heart of a person are usually reflected in the people who surround that person.
“Don’t do it.”
“Give it up, it will not work.”
“Why we should bother?”
“If it goes wrong, you will regret it.”
The words vary, but the goal remains the same: To keep you exactly where you are.
The Closest Enemy to You Is the One Who Understands Your Power the Most
The actual enemy is not far away.
The real enemy is close enough to hear your breath… Because they are the ones watching you the closest.
A person from the outside cannot easily target you; simply, they don’t know what you’re capable of.
But those who are close to you can see the spark in your soul very clearly.
They sense the determination in your eyes, your persistence with a project, your uplifting mood way before others.
And sometimes, even the one who most of all pretends to love you, utters in a low voice:
“What if they really succeed? What if I end up in their shadow?”
It is the moment when the support mask disappears beneath it.
The moment when the “enemy close by” comes into existence the moment when the obstacle beneath the mask is revealed.
Stopping You Is Not a Wonder It Is a Confession
If a person is attempting to hinder you, they have already come to the realization that you are the one powerful enough to upset their equilibrium.
Quite contrary to what they proclaim, “You can’t do it”, and in their heart of hearts, they are aware:
“They can.”
Such a chance frightens them.
Most of the time, they aren’t even consciously thinking of that, the jealousy, the insecurity, or the feeling of being less than is so deep that they try to disguise these feelings by love:
“I’m telling this just for you not to get hurt…”
“I’m not saying that you can’t do it, but…”
“I think you should probably take a safer route…”
These phrases contain no love only terror.
The people, who are scared, do the most to stop other people, as a way of protecting themselves.
The Knotted Blind Spots of Closeness: Family, Partners, Workplace
The enemy close by behaves most distinctly that way in three areas of life:
1) Family
Family usually perceives you as a smaller, older version of yourself.
Despite the years, they still have not come to terms with your growth, so they set limits.
“You are not the one for these.”
“No one in our family has done that where did you get the idea?”
Because your new self is a threat to their old one.
2) Partner / Lover
In this place, it is the strongest.
As a result of fear of losing you, some partners disobey your rise.
Your shining light makes their dark side visible.
The attempt to put out your light is just a reminder to them that they are surrounded by their own darkness, that’s why they are trying to dim it.
3) Co-workers
Colleagues are the ones who see your most hidden talents.
That’s why the loudest voice of their support is also the one that sabotages you because if you thrive, they won’t be able to relax.
The enemy close by often comes to you with a hug, the enemy far away, though, just watches from a distance maybe jealous but cannot touch you.
Your Rise Reveals a Truth Within Them
Inside every person, there are two sides:
One is a potential,
The other is a fear.
The more you develop your potential, the more their fear becomes apparent.
And when people are embarrassed by what they see and want to hide it, they chose the easiest way:
They stop you.
However the thing that they fail to grasp is this: Those people who try hard to stop you are actually only fighting their own shadow, not yours.
Why the Ones That Believe the Most Are the Ones That Try to Stop You? The answer here is simple: The ones that fear you are not those who block you. It is the ones that are sure of you that do.
In order for a person to sabotage someone, that person needs three things:
To know you very well,
To see your potential very clearly,
To be sure that you will shine again.
This is the reason why Charles Chaplin’s words are so harsh and yet so very true:
“Those who are trying to stop you are the ones who believe in your success the most.”
An obstacle is in fact a confession.It is the upside down version of “You will succeed.”
So What Should You Do?
First of all, listen to the vibration rather than the words. Not all people who say “We are doing this for your own good” are good. Long before the sentence finishes, one can already feel the intention.
Secondly, do not worship closeness. Sometimes, the greatest enemy may be sitting at the warmest table.
Thirdly, be loyal to your own truth. Their fear must not become your fate.
Fourthly, do not make your light less bright. Nobody turns off a lamp just because somebody’s eyes are being hurt by the brightness.
Fifthly, treat the obstacle as a sign. The one who places the biggest barrier in front of you is in fact the one who is most reminding you of your power.
My last word to you is this:
The enemy that is very close does not intend to wreck you. They intend to keep you as you were.
As you are elevating, the darkness that they have inside becomes spot lighted. That is why they are trying to stop you. But now you understand: If someone is trying to stop you, they are not scared of you… They actually believe in you.
The one who overcomes the fears of those that believe, becomes the leader of his own destiny.