Trying to be perfect, you lose your real self.
People’s obsession with perfection often begins within the family.
Since childhood, you’ve heard things like:
“Be more careful.”
“Look at your friend’s grades why can’t you be like them?”
“Would it really hurt to do it perfectly just once?”
Hearing those words over and over makes you believe that love must be earned.
And eventually, you create a mental equation that links being valued with not making mistakes.
Then you grow up… But that equation grows with you.
At work, you push yourself to be flawless, trying to hide your fear of criticism.
Among friends, you’re always the strong, understanding one because you’ve learned to see vulnerability as weakness.
And in love, while striving to be the perfect partner, you start suppressing your real emotions.
In short, while trying to be perfect, you forget who you truly are.
But here’s the truth: Nobody is perfect.
Nobody is strong all the time.
And no one expects a divine performance from you.
The only person who does is you. Because that’s what you were taught as a child.
Perfectionism is not a goal; it’s a chain.
It doesn’t lead to growth it leads to quiet self-punishment.
The more you tell yourself you’re not good enough, the lower your frequency falls, the dimmer your energy becomes.
What truly makes a person shine isn’t perfection it’s the courage to stay human.
“Perfectionism is self abuse of the highest order.” Anne Wilson Schaef
This line perfectly captures what perfectionism really is.
While trying to become better, you end up judging yourself the hardest.
And your toughest critic is always you.
“Pursue truth rather than perfection because the moment you can genuinely be yourself, you’re already vibrating at your highest frequency.”