Most people are not honest they’ve just learned how to stay silent. Your perception is that most people lie to you. Yet, the fact is, most people don’t lie at all. They just avoid giving the truth. And those are quite different things. People, at times, are only pretending to be transparent. They laugh, they …
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The truth is, some days nothing really goes wrong, even. You have your coffee. You do your work. You read some inspiring lines. A couple of nice messages reach you. The life is going pretty smooth. And then, suddenly, one thing unexpectedly happens. A glance. A phrase. A critique. A gesture. An I didn’t like it. …
What used to be typical in influential relationships is love. However, in today’s faster relationships, love is not what we see at first glance but fast judgment is. By seeing a photo of someone, or a look, you can decide in your mind about the entire personality of the person with the data that is …
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A Small Guide to Understanding People (Including Yourself) Most of the time, when the term narcissism is used; people consider just one type of a person: A person who is in love with himself, he is always checking himself in the mirror, and he considers everyone under him. But a single mask is not what …
How “How Are You?” Can Be Used to Sneakily Enter Your Mind Once you are walking down the street and a person comes to you: “Sorry to bother you. How are you today? “ You give an answer as if you were on autopilot: “Fine, thank you.” To which the next sentence is: “Excellent. So, …
One of the most frequent things that modern people say is: “Honestly, I hardly do anything, and still, I feel completely worn out.” The plans don’t seem to be that packed, there is no huge physical effort, still, the mind looks like it is carrying something that cannot be seen, all day long. The main …
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Sometimes you look in the mirror and the person you’re really angry at isn’t today’s you it’s the older versions of you walking in the background of that reflection. “Why did I become like this?” you think. “Why do I react like this, why do I get triggered so easily, why do I break so …
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Watching certain individuals online you already know the whole thing from the very outset: “We are the chosen ones. We see what others cannot. We are the pawns in the grandest of games. Only those enlightened will comprehend…” After that they get into dreams, visions, numbers, signs, the dark, shadows… However, what is very often …
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I was preparing to go to sleep. I had turned off everything, and the only light coming in was that of the street lamp. I was lying in bed, had kept my phone aside and had closed my eyes. When I was about to sleep… There was a dark silhouette at the door. The door …
There are some mornings… The alarm rings, eyes are forced open, the body moves, But your inner self is very silent and it says: “I am not really up for it.” You are not being sad. You do not bury yourself under the blankets. However, the voice inside your head is there and it keeps …
An internal voice often contradicts what you hear from the outside, especially when it comes to our achievements and success. When someone tells you, “You’re so successful,” does something inside you say: “Don’t exaggerate… I’m not that good. If they knew the truth, they wouldn’t think this way.” It is a common experience that in …
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The brain is not just a framework that considers, it is also an entity capable of scrutinizing its own thoughts. The possession of this faculty is what differentiates man from the rest of the animals by a very thin line. To have a thought is one thing, to be aware of that thought is quite …
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We tend to think that life is complicated. But in reality, most of the time, we’re just looking in the wrong direction. There’s a law that applies not only to the physical world but also to the mind: Not everything is equally important. You’re truly aware of only about 20% of your day; the remaining …
Trying to be perfect, you lose your real self. People’s obsession with perfection often begins within the family. Since childhood, you’ve heard things like: “Be more careful.” “Look at your friend’s grades why can’t you be like them?” “Would it really hurt to do it perfectly just once?” Hearing those words over and over makes …
Does your heart start racing when you have to speak in public? Does giving a presentation or talking in a meeting feel like the ultimate test of your worth? Maybe you’re not just shy. Maybe your mind is still carrying the echoes of being shamed years ago. The Silence That Begins at Home The roots …
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A Reality Through the Case of Belle Gibson Fake Illness, Real Profit When Belle Gibson, a young woman from Australia, said she had brain cancer, people believed her. She started a blog, shared posts on social media, and wrote about receiving chemotherapy. Photos of hospital drips, dramatic sentences… Everything looked so convincing that within a …
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