Most people are not honest they’ve just learned how to stay silent. Your perception is that most people lie to you. Yet, the fact is, most people don’t lie at all. They just avoid giving the truth. And those are quite different things. People, at times, are only pretending to be transparent. They laugh, they …
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Sometimes it just seems like anyone can see it from the outside. It’s so clear: The person you are with isn’t the one who is really good for you. When they are around, your peace of mind gets smaller and smaller. You begin to edit your own words, as if you are two different people. …
Some individuals spend a lifetime fighting a battle to be understood. They wish the sentences they utter would be more clearly understood. They modulate their tone. They try to explain. They keep cool. They talk in a more logical way. They use softer words. They write with greater clarity. They give more explanations. And yet: …
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The truth is, some days nothing really goes wrong, even. You have your coffee. You do your work. You read some inspiring lines. A couple of nice messages reach you. The life is going pretty smooth. And then, suddenly, one thing unexpectedly happens. A glance. A phrase. A critique. A gesture. An I didn’t like it. …
The expression no is almost like a straightforward statement. Yet, for many of them, it is very hard to say and it can feel as if a big heavy stone is placed inside their throat. Because by saying no, you are not simply denying a work. You are also directly coming into contact with an …
Sometimes, only a few people’s lives may be compared to relationships. The rest resemble a train station. How’s that? You have a metaphorical stop within yourself that’s a kind of internal pause or something that is always doing quiet loops within you. Then, with no awareness on your part, it gradually becomes a platform… Where …
At times, you give yourself an extremely serious order: Ok, I won’t think about it. No panic. I won’t text. I won’t have any sweets. This time I will not embarrass myself. And then this peculiar thing happens: Your brain rebels against you. The more you try to shove the idea away, the louder it …
What used to be typical in influential relationships is love. However, in today’s faster relationships, love is not what we see at first glance but fast judgment is. By seeing a photo of someone, or a look, you can decide in your mind about the entire personality of the person with the data that is …
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As I compose this, a very straightforward image is coming to my mind: On one hand, an article with the title: 10 Ways to Drive Your Partner Crazy in Bed. On the other hand: Emotional Maturity and Boundaries in Relationships. You already know which one is getting more clicks. The thing is that the word …
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You know those moments when they don’t text you back and you keep thinking: Maybe they are just really busy and if they had time, they would definitely call. Or they ignore you continually but in your mind you say: Honestly, they must care for me, they are just probably not good at expressing their …
There are some sentences that pierce your heart directly, even when they are accompanied with an, I am telling this with good intentions kind of wrapping. Those statements that start with Please don’t misunderstand me, but… And then go shrink you, belittle you, or bring the feeling of shame over you. So where is the actual problem? In …
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When love is blind is often said, it really is one of the most truthful things that people say, although indirectly: “I knew the fact, but I suppressed it.” The trouble is not with the eyes, but with the mind that deliberately ignores the inconvenient truth. So, why is it so? Why even the smartest, …
A Small Guide to Understanding People (Including Yourself) Most of the time, when the term narcissism is used; people consider just one type of a person: A person who is in love with himself, he is always checking himself in the mirror, and he considers everyone under him. But a single mask is not what …
We live in a world where people love to tell others what they think, especially about matters they hardly understand. What is even more incredible is, some of these people do not only have an opinion, but even go as far as saying that they are the ultimate holders of the truth. By the way, …
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There are people who simply by entering a room attract the attention without doing anything extraordinary. They are not necessarily more attractive, wealthier, or the ones talking the most. Nevertheless somehow… The glance is immediately caught by them. People lean a little closer. One might say that they possess an invisible magnet. This is not …
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After a breakup, most people have this thought going again and again in their head: “We broke up that easily, so it must have never been real.” As if love has to be forever to be real. As if the breakup leaves no trace of the time you spent together. The real question should be: …
Usually, relationships do not finish as a result of one major dramatic event. It is like with a glass; the glass does not break all at once, already there are small invisible cracks. Nowadays, social media has gradually become the kind of invisible crack that you are talking about in relationships. Those vague feelings of …
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No one wants to hear it, but this is the truth: Everyone who gets cheated on is a fool. Because no betrayal is ever truly hidden. Deep down, every person knows. The colder looks, the delayed messages, the shifting behavior… But they choose not to see. Because it doesn’t suit them. Why? Because by saying …